“Why Aren’t You Married? How Much Longer Will You Stay?”: Care-Laced Policing, Temporal Governance, and the Production of the “Ideal Man” in Thailand’s Academic Workplace
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This theoretical article begins with an ordinary question that single women faculty in Thai universities hear repeatedly: "Why aren't you married? How much longer will you stay?" The study theorizes how this seemingly benign expression of cultural care functions as a potent mechanism of institutional power, operating through the intersection of time, affect, and morality in academic workplaces. Employing theoretical synthesis, the article bridges Austin's and Butler's speech act theory, Freeman's and Sharma's sociology of time, Ahmed's affect theory, Skeggs's respectability politics, and Crenshaw's intersectional framework, complemented by analytical vignettes from the Thai academic field. The analysis demonstrates that the question operates through all three layers of speech acts, with felicity conditions contingent upon hierarchical asymmetry, semi-formal contexts, biographical timing, and professional stakes. The article advances six original concepts working in concert: Institutional Deadline of Womanhood, Care-Laced Policing, Academic Respectability, Strategic Ambivalence, Asymmetric Moral Accounting, and Heteronormative Institutional Grammar. By positioning the Global South as a site of theoretical production, the article expands sociology of time, gendered organization studies, and feminist theories of soft power. It concludes with a multi-level intervention theory grounded in the analytical framework, demonstrating that diagnosing power in everyday life can translate into concrete structural change.
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